The real test of a person is the degree…
The real test of a person is the degree to which they are willing to nonconform to do the right thing.
— from True North (Ethics, Integrity, Truth, Values) · Clear Thinking: The Art and Science of Making Better Decisions by Shane Parrish
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The childish version of morality is "I like it"; the adolescent version is "the group approves"; the grown version is a standard that holds even when the self and the group both pull the other way. And so the truest test of a person is the willingness to not conform in order to do the right thing. Who is the final arbiter of your ethics? […] Apologize properly when you're wrong. Name it, understand the hurt, make amends. Refuse to conform when conforming means doing wrong. That refusal is the whole test. Live toward your own epitaph. Decide how you'd want the sentence "Above all, they were ___" to end, and become that. — True North (Ethics, Integrity, Truth, Values)