A culture can be built conscious consciously or evolved…
Page 166. A culture can be built conscious consciously or evolved in advertently. If you want your family to have a culture with a clear set of priorities for everyone to follow, then those priorities need to be proactively designed into the culture, which can be built through the steps noted above.
— from Family & Parenting (Family/Parenting)
In the book
Two ideas hold this whole chapter up, and both come down to the same surprising truth: a family is not just something that happens to you — it is something you build on purpose. The first is family culture. A family culture is going to form whether you intend it or not; the only question is whether it evolves by accident or gets designed. If you want your family to have a clear set of priorities that everyone simply follows — without anyone having to stop and think about what Mom or Dad would want — then those priorities have to be built in deliberately, until "this is how our family behaves" becomes the air everyone breathes. — Family & Parenting (Family/Parenting)
Flourishing families tell and retell their history and keep their traditions and rituals alive. A family culture does not happen by accident — if you want one with a clear set of shared priorities, you have to design it on purpose. Write down, together, what the family stands for: to fulfill our potential as individuals and as a family, to support each other's growth, to lend our hands to those less fortunate, and to keep the family a place of security where we can love and enjoy each other. — Legacy / The Logbook (Legacy/Epilogue)