about the first principal, you might ask “limit the…
Page 137 about the first principal, you might ask “limit the rules to what, exactly?“ here are some suggestions. Do not fight, kick, or or hit, except in self-defense. Do not torture or bully other children, so you don’t end up in jail. Eat in a civilized and thankful manner, so that people are happy to have you in their home, and pleased to feed you. Learn to share so that kids will play with you. Pay attention when spoken to by adults, so they don’t hate you and Mike there for Dean you to teach you something. Go to sleep properly and peacefully, so that your parents can have a private life life and not resent your existence. Take care of your belongings because you need to learn how because you’re lucky to have them. Be good company wants something fun is happening, so you’re invited for all the fun. Act so that other people are happy when you’re around, so that people will want you around. A child who knows these rules. Will be welcome everywhere
— from Family & Parenting (Family/Parenting) · 12 Rules for Life, An Antidote to Chaos by Jordan Peterson
In the book
Think of yourself as a merciful proxy for the real world — better that a loving parent teach the hard lessons than that the cold, uncaring world teach them later. The aim is to make your child welcome everywhere, which is why a short list of firm rules — do not bully, share, be good company, pay attention when adults speak — is one of the kindest things you can give them. But here is the trap: overprotection. […] Love out loud. Fill the bucket with confidence, say plainly that you are proud, and listen so fully that they know their voice matters. Discipline as mercy, not anger. Be the real world's kind proxy; give them a few firm rules so they are welcome everywhere; and let them fail safely rather than smothering their competence. Teach by living it. Model the values you want rather than imposing them; mind whom you expose them to; raise givers, not takers, and practice it together. — Family & Parenting (Family/Parenting)