I am not responsible for things for which I…

I am not responsible for things for which I wasn’t responsible.

— from Failure & Resilience (Challenge/Failure/Perseverance/Accountability/Flexibility/Resilience) · It’s all in your Head, written by Stephen Pollan and Mark Levine

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Psychologists call the belief in your own ability to meet whatever arises self-efficacy, and those who have it bounce back from failure precisely because they approach trouble asking "how do I handle this?" rather than "what could go wrong?" And there is a paradox worth holding here, one I have lived: take responsibility for a failure even when it is not objectively your fault — not because the blame is fair, but because responsibility is the only door to fixing it; the person who refuses it is left waiting, helplessly, for someone else to set things right. Hold that beside its necessary balance, though: you are not responsible for the things that genuinely were not yours. Owning your response is strength; shouldering blame that was never yours is just a different way of staying stuck. — Failure & Resilience (Challenge/Failure/Perseverance/Accountability/Flexibility/Resilience)

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