An important belief is that your locus of control…
An important belief is that your locus of control lies within you and not with someone or something else.
— from Who Is Flying (Self, Nature & Nurture)
In the book
There is a name the psychologists give to the deeper belief beneath all this — your locus of control, the sense that the controls are genuinely in your hands and that you can meet what comes. Hold that honestly and you fly; lose it and you are merely a passenger in your own life. And here is the subtle thing the research found about the rough air: the deepest stability comes not from high self-esteem, which is brittle and forever needing defense, but from self-compassion — sustained, honest self-observation paired with a refusal to condemn what you see. — Who Is Flying (Self, Nature & Nurture)