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Page 186 it was after years of success, years of public praise and respect, and his mother was already very old, at the end of her life. Before she passedAway, she looked at him and said, I am so proud of you. Those were her last words tell your children you’re proud of them. Love, we are love, he’s telling those closest to you how you feel about them.

— from Family & Parenting (Family/Parenting) · Meaningful Minute compiled by Yisroel Besser and Nachi Gordon

In the book

So your first job is to fill the child's bucket with so much love and confidence that all the holes the world will later drill in it can never quite empty it out. Tell them, in plain words, that you are proud of them — do not save it, the way too many do, for a deathbed. And know that the most powerful gift to a child's self-esteem is to let them see your own: children watch a parent's unhappiness and quietly conclude it must somehow be their fault, so modeling a steady, healthy self-regard is itself an act of love. […] Do the three jobs. Teach, protect, and love — and aim always to raise the child into who they are, not who you wish they were. Love out loud. Fill the bucket with confidence, say plainly that you are proud, and listen so fully that they know their voice matters. Discipline as mercy, not anger. Be the real world's kind proxy; give them a few firm rules so they are welcome everywhere; and let them fail safely rather than smothering their competence. — Family & Parenting (Family/Parenting)

Give, and create, and lighten up. Of the rules I've gathered, a few belong especially here: spend your time with the people you love, because most people in life are only visitors and family is for life; be grateful, and say so, out loud, often; give without keeping score, solely for the joy of giving; create something — not to leave a monument you won't be around to see, but simply to be of use; enjoy the small things, which everyone claims to know and almost no one actually does; and for heaven's sake don't take yourself so seriously. And tell the people closest to you that you are proud of them — a woman at the very end of her long life looked at her successful son and said "I am so proud of you," and those were her last words; don't wait that long to say it. Understand that you teach mostly by living. The hard, humbling fact is that what a wise person says is the smallest part of what they pass on. […] Plant the slow trees. Think seven generations out; leave the family better than you found it. Say it now. Give without scorekeeping, create to be of use, and tell the people you love that you're proud of them. My dear children, grandchildren, and the great-grandchildren and generations I will never meet — — Legacy / The Logbook (Legacy/Epilogue)

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