When you control your anger, you are bearing it…
Page 87. When you control your anger, you are bearing it right? Instead, things without using the emotion of anger. Because after all, anger is a tool. It means for achieving a goal.
— from The Heart in the Cockpit (Emotion/Awe/Anxiety/Regret/Empathy) · Courage to be Disliked
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Let me take you on a walk through the instrument panel of the heart, feeling by feeling, the way I have actually had to learn to read it. Anger. Anger is a tool — nothing more — a means for achieving a goal, and when you truly control your anger you are wielding it rather than being wielded by it. Our tradition is blunt about the alternative: anger rests in the bosom of fools. — The Heart in the Cockpit (Emotion/Awe/Anxiety/Regret/Empathy)