The more concepts that you know in the more…

Page 189. The more concepts that you know in the more instances that you can construct the more effectively you can we categorize to mask your emotions and we calculate your behavior. If you can categorize your discomfort as helpful, when you’re exercising heart, you can cultivate greater stamina the US Marine Corps has a motto “pain is weakness leaving your body“

— from The Heart in the Cockpit (Emotion/Awe/Anxiety/Regret/Empathy) · How emotions are made by Lisa Feldman Barrett

In the book

The first tool of reappraisal is to name the feeling. Putting a word on an emotion — this is anger, this is fear — quiets the brain and lowers its arousal; watch your feelings as they rise and name them in the moment, and you slip a sliver of space between the feeling and whatever you might do about it. The richer your vocabulary of feeling — the more finely you can tell apart frustration from disappointment from grief — the better you can manage yourself. This is what people mean by emotional intelligence: the skill of identifying your emotions and others', understanding where they come from, and managing them well. — The Heart in the Cockpit (Emotion/Awe/Anxiety/Regret/Empathy)

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