Can you pretend to behave in a way that…
Can you pretend to behave in a way that you would like to behave in order to create a habit? Is this self-help? Be the change that you want to see. (Ghandi) Change. Self-help. Habit.
— from Who Is Flying (Self, Nature & Nurture)
In the book
Keep the gifts; retrain the inclinations. A tendency is a clutch that slips, not a sentence. You become what you repeatedly do — excellence is not an act but a habit — so if you want to be steadier, you must first act steadier; you can even, deliberately, behave as the person you wish to be until the behavior hardens into a self. Build your worth from the inside. Choose your core values on purpose — pick them, name them, write them down — and then organize and act around them, so that you become whole and undivided rather than at war with yourself, which is the real meaning of integrity. — Who Is Flying (Self, Nature & Nurture)