the social self is all about how I perceive…
Page 159 the social self is all about how I perceive others perceiving me. It is the part of me that arises from my being embedded in a social network.
— from Who Is Flying (Self, Nature & Nurture)
In the book
There is the self that lives each moment and the self that remembers it afterward. And there is more than one you in daylight, too — the private self, the social self that lives in how we imagine others see us, and the narrative self that strings it all into a story. The self is not some fixed thing sitting behind your eyes looking out — your deepest identity is, in truth, none of your roles, none of your beliefs, none of your passing feelings. — Who Is Flying (Self, Nature & Nurture)