the self is not an immutable entity that works…
Page 160 the self is not an immutable entity that works behind the windows of the eyes, looking out into the world and controlling the body as a pilot controls a plane. The experience of being me, or being you, is a perception itself, or better, a collection of perceptions tightly woven, bundle of Nuraly and coded predictions geared toward keeping your body alive.
— from Who Is Flying (Self, Nature & Nurture)
In the book
And there is more than one you in daylight, too — the private self, the social self that lives in how we imagine others see us, and the narrative self that strings it all into a story. The self is not some fixed thing sitting behind your eyes looking out — your deepest identity is, in truth, none of your roles, none of your beliefs, none of your passing feelings. It is something underneath all of those, and the rarest of all gifts is what lets you go looking for it: a self-reflexive consciousness, the ability to turn and watch yourself looking. — Who Is Flying (Self, Nature & Nurture)