What is the distinguishing quality of the Superfriends?
Page 34. What is the distinguishing quality of the Superfriends? It's a security. According to attachment theory, the theory that has changed Gillaths life and career forever, secure attachment is one of three major attachment, styles outlined as follows number one secure attachment, secure people assume they are worthy of love, and others can be trusted to give it to them. It comes from an unconscious template that trickles into all their relationships, leading them to five others the benefit of the doubt Number two anxious attachment, people are anxiously attached. Assume others will abandon them. To keep themselves from being abandoned, they act clingingly, are overly self sacrificinng to accommodate otgers or plunge into intimacy too early Number three avoidant attachment avoidant attached people are similarly afraid others will abandon them. But instead of clinging to avoid this outcome, they keep others at a distance. Intimacy signals, to them, that they could be hurt, so they push others away eschew vulnerability and leave relationships prematurely.
— from Who Is Flying (Self, Nature & Nurture)