what it means to hold your identity lately
Page 200 what it means to hold your identity lately. Holding an identity lately means thinking of it in a matter of fact way, rather than as a central source of pride and meaning in your life,. It is a description, not a flag to be waved proudly.
— from True North (Ethics, Integrity, Truth, Values)
In the book
There is a failure of omission here too: certain people have a genuine obligation to speak up when they see something wrong that can be corrected, and fear of standing out is no excuse for silence. And watch the subtler internal drift of holding your own rightness too tightly — when being right becomes a central source of your pride and identity rather than just a description, you will defend the position instead of seeking the truth. Good therapists teach a useful trick against this: step back far enough to see that your beliefs and perceptions are constructions of reality, not revelations of an absolute truth that can only be seen one way. — True North (Ethics, Integrity, Truth, Values)