take some extra time to reflect and be really…

Page 76 take some extra time to reflect and be really honest with yourself that what you’re pursuing as well as what your underlying motivations may be.

— from The Relationship With Yourself (Traits/Reflection) · What Game Are You Playing- author Robin Moriarty, PhD

In the book

And reaching it rests on two disciplines, which are the two halves of this chapter: building a sound set of character traits, and practicing honest self-reflection — learning to look at yourself clearly without either flattering or flogging the person you find. It begins with the courage to ask yourself a plain question almost nobody sits with — what do I really want? — and to be equally honest about what is actually motivating you underneath. Start with the deepest question of the whole chapter: by whose scorecard do you measure yourself? — The Relationship With Yourself (Traits/Reflection)

But tenacity needs honest fuel, so stop and ask yourself, with real honesty, what is actually driving you — is this goal yours, or is it a need to prove something, or to please someone, or to keep score against a neighbor? Underneath all our wanting, the oldest teachers say, the real longing is not for the relationship or the title or the prize at all, but simply to be free — at peace, complete, with nothing missing. Notice, too, the genuine achievement drive that marks effective people: they are pulled to achieve for its own sake, forever raising their own bar, not merely chasing the salary or the title. […] Then act — now. Nothing happens until you move; build it one day at a time; and break procrastination by amplifying the cost of not acting. Feed the right fuel. Lean on autonomy, mastery, and purpose; do what you genuinely enjoy; and check that the drive is honestly your own. Measure by greatness, not the scoreboard; accept your own imperfection; and do your maximum, not perfection. — Goals, Action & Defining Success (Goal/Action/Success/Motivation)

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