Or, to quote Charlie Munger's "iron prescription" Whenever you…
Or, to quote Charlie Munger's "iron prescription" Whenever you think that some situation or some person is ruining your life, it is actually you who are ruining your life... Feeling like a victim is a perfectly disastrous way to go through life."
— from The Heart in the Cockpit (Emotion/Awe/Anxiety/Regret/Empathy) · Art of the Good Life: Clear Thinking for Business and a Better Life by Rolf Dobelli
In the book
Self-pity. A golden rule of mental health is simply to accept that life is not perfect — not yours, not anyone's. Charlie Munger gave the iron prescription: whenever you feel some person or situation is ruining your life, look again, because it is usually you who are ruining your life, and feeling like a victim is a perfectly disastrous way to travel through it. Self-pity is seductive precisely because it buys you time and takes all the pressure off — when you have a grievance against the world, you are excused from doing anything hard. — The Heart in the Cockpit (Emotion/Awe/Anxiety/Regret/Empathy)