We found that it was thinking about the arbitrary…
Page 135. We found that it was thinking about the arbitrary and Ness of their animosity not the positive qualities of the rival that mattered.
— from Friends, Community & Society (Relationships/Community/Society)
In the book
It is rarer than we like to think for a member of a majority group to form a real friendship across the line into a minority one. The antidote, the social scientists find, is to deliberately call attention to the traits people hold in common rather than the ones that set them apart, and to keep our focus on how arbitrary most of our animosities really are. [Here is the place for my own turbulence — write in, or let me tell you, about the loneliness of my early years. — Friends, Community & Society (Relationships/Community/Society)