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  1. Change the situation Sometimes we can change a situation. If you have a conflicta work with a coworker, you could try to resolve that situa By taking responsibility for what happened and proposing solution, you can change your current (undesired) position Remember, we can only change so much. If you work in environment where office politics and backstabbing is norm, it is unlikely you can amend the culture unless you an a senior manager or the CEO. In circumstances where you not have any influence to change it, you can do the t following things. 2. Leave the situation If you feel like you are in a situation that you do not like, leave it. For example, is your job making you miserable? Create a plan to leave the job. Do not storm into your manager's office and say, "I quit, you bastard." That only happens in movies. Start working on a plan and develop skills you might need to find another job. Believe in your abilities to find something else. 3. Continue, but stop complaining to ensure your happiness. To ensure your happiness, stop complaining. Complaining is poisonous for your mind. Taking responsibility means that you accept things for what they are. Once you accept something, you should not complain. However, if you do find yourself complaining take this as a sign of not having accepted it yet. Because taking full responsibility means that you take even the negative things of your life as a learning experience.

— from Communication & Conflict (Communication/Conflict) · Win Your Inner Battles: Defeat the Enemy Within and Live With Purpose by Darius Foroux

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Some of the deepest mutual respect I have ever seen was built between people who argued constantly — but argued, always, about what the real questions were, and never doubted each other's worth. And when a conflict truly cannot be solved, remember you always have exactly three honest options: change the situation, leave it, or stop complaining and fully accept it — but never the fourth, which is to stew in it and blame. And give it time: the difference between demanding an immediate resolution and allowing an issue room to breathe is often the difference between the final nail in a relationship's coffin and a door left open for something better later. […] Refuse the poison. Never decide the other person is evil — the line runs through every heart; and let no resolution produce a loser. When truly stuck: change it, leave it, or accept it — but do not sit and blame. To my children, and to theirs: — Communication & Conflict (Communication/Conflict)

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