Sara believed she had a normal upbringing

Sara believed she had a normal upbringing. She also believed her mother yelling at her was actually good for her. Sara believed that if she had not been yelled at, she would not be a good person. This is a great example of how trauma leads to false beliefs about our-selves and how abuse and emotional neglect however small-lead to shame. When I suggested that Sara should stop emotionally beating up on herself, basically perpetuating her mother's treat-ment of her, she dismissed the idea, fearing that she'd become someone terrible without upholding those harsh standards.

— from Who Is Flying (Self, Nature & Nurture)

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