The Perfection Myth Many people I treat strive to…

The Perfection Myth Many people I treat strive to be perfect. When someone tells me she wants to be perfect, I ask, "Perfect for whom?" No one is per-fect! Every one of us has flaws. The whole notion of perfection makes no sense when you understand that we all see through a subjective lens. What is perfect to one person is probably not per-fect to someone else. Usually the word "perfect" is code for: At one time, I needed to be some specific way to get approval from some-one important and avoid being shamed. Uncovering the original someone in that scenario can help loosen the grip of a perfectionis-tic standard.

— from True North (Ethics, Integrity, Truth, Values)

Also belongs to

• Time
• The Instruments (Awareness/Perception/Expectations)
• Who Is Flying (Self, Nature & Nurture)
• The Mind in the Cockpit
• The Heart in the Cockpit (Emotion/Awe/Anxiety/Regret/Empathy)

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