Chart of the deep structure of regret

Chart of the deep structure of regret. Foundation. It sounds like “if only I done the work end of quote and the human need, it reveals instability. Boldness sounds like “if I only taking the risk” human need - growth, Moral- sounds like “ If only I’d done the right thing” human need- goodness, Connection- sounds like “ If only I reached out” human need -love.

— from The Flight Plan (Purpose/Wisdom/Risk) · Power of Regret by Daniel Pink

In the book

The truth is plain, and worth staking a life on: human existence matters most precisely when you set a goal and strive toward an outcome you cannot guarantee; there is no reward without risk, and that is simply the exchange rate of anything worth having. Listen to the people near the end of their flights and you will hear it confirmed: their sharpest regrets are almost never the risks they took and lost, but the bold ones they never took at all — the whole architecture of regret is built on the words "if only I had". But hear the balance in it, because this matters and I have seen it ignored at terrible cost. — The Flight Plan (Purpose/Wisdom/Risk)

When you do feel it, make it the productive kind: don't dodge it, don't wallow, let the feeling become a catalyst — productive regret aggravates, then activates. There is a deep structure to what people regret most — foundation ("if only I'd done the work"), boldness ("if only I'd taken the risk"), moral ("if only I'd done the right thing"), and connection ("if only I'd reached out"). And understanding it is a gift, because if you know what you truly regret, you know what you truly value. — The Heart in the Cockpit (Emotion/Awe/Anxiety/Regret/Empathy)

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