modern parents are simply paralyzed by the fear that…

Page 123 modern parents are simply paralyzed by the fear that they will no longer be liked or even loved by their children if they chastise them for any reason. They want their children’s friendship above all, and are willing to sacrifice respect to get it. This is not good. A child will have many friends, but only two parents . Friends have a very limited authority to correct. Every parent, therefore it needs to learn to tolerate the mom, momentary anger, or even hatred, directed towards them by their children, After necessary, corrective action has been taken as the capacity of children to perceive or care about long-term consequences is very limited. Parents are the arbiter of society. They teach children. How do I achieve so that other people will be able to interact, meaningfully, and productively with them. It is an active responsibility to discipline a child. It is not anger Atmos behavior. It is not revenge from misdeed. It is instead a careful combination of mercy and long-term judgment. Proper discipline, requires effort, and deep, is virtually synonymous with effort. End of paragraph

— from Family & Parenting (Family/Parenting) · 12 Rules for Life, An Antidote to Chaos by Jordan Peterson

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Protect — but not too much. This is the subtlest of the three. Discipline is not anger, and it is not revenge for a misdeed; it is an act of responsibility, a careful combination of mercy and long-term judgment, and it takes real effort to do well. Think of yourself as a merciful proxy for the real world — better that a loving parent teach the hard lessons than that the cold, uncaring world teach them later. — Family & Parenting (Family/Parenting)

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