a parent has to fill up their child's bucket…
Keyword parenting a parent has to fill up their child's bucket with enough self-confidence in the bucket that all the holes that other people try to drill in the bucket will never empty the bucket out. Therefore it's important to fill your children with love and confidence. This means identifying their strengths but also identifying their weaknesses from a constructive perspective.
— from Family & Parenting (Family/Parenting) · Light at the beginning of the tunnel
In the book
Love. A child's real sense of self-worth does not come, at first, from teachers or friends or any later success — it comes from you, their parent, in ten thousand ordinary moments. So your first job is to fill the child's bucket with so much love and confidence that all the holes the world will later drill in it can never quite empty it out. Tell them, in plain words, that you are proud of them — do not save it, the way too many do, for a deathbed. […] Do the three jobs. Teach, protect, and love — and aim always to raise the child into who they are, not who you wish they were. Love out loud. Fill the bucket with confidence, say plainly that you are proud, and listen so fully that they know their voice matters. Discipline as mercy, not anger. Be the real world's kind proxy; give them a few firm rules so they are welcome everywhere; and let them fail safely rather than smothering their competence. — Family & Parenting (Family/Parenting)