in order to inoculate children from failure or for…
Keyword failure in order to inoculate children from failure or for failure it means letting them fail on occasion. It does not mean letting them get hurt. It just means let them know what the feeling of failure is and also to get back up.
— from Family & Parenting (Family/Parenting) · Light at the beginning of the tunnel
In the book
Make things too safe, and children will simply invent new ways to make them dangerous again. So you must let them fail, on occasion — not get hurt, but fail, and feel it, and learn that they can get back up. And do not imagine you must choose between warmth and high standards; there is no trade-off between supportive parenting and demanding parenting — the best parents simply do both. […] Love out loud. Fill the bucket with confidence, say plainly that you are proud, and listen so fully that they know their voice matters. Discipline as mercy, not anger. Be the real world's kind proxy; give them a few firm rules so they are welcome everywhere; and let them fail safely rather than smothering their competence. Teach by living it. Model the values you want rather than imposing them; mind whom you expose them to; raise givers, not takers, and practice it together. — Family & Parenting (Family/Parenting)