Why is it that more people aren’t running after…

Why is it that more people aren’t running after character improvement?The simple answer is lack of mindfulness on two levels. The first is lacking the self-awareness to even realize that there is an issue. It takes a real hit to the ego and a lowering of one psychological defenses to admit yourself that something is wrong with you and you have to change. Change is hard. It’s much easier to just blame others. the second lacking, even if you realize you need to change, it’s a plan of action in order to do so. I want him, it might be such a vague concept, that you simply don’t know where to begin. You might say to yourself that I’m just an angry person, and I always have been. The other hand, you may have tried to work on your character traits in the past, and realize how challenging it is.

— from Expanding Your Range (Growth/Change/Education/Learning/Habit) · Don't Mind If I Do: How To Transform Your Life With The Power of Jewish Mindfulness

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The great enemy of any attempt to change a person's habits is inertia; a life, like a civilization, is limited by it. The second headwind is a lack of self-awareness so complete that people do not even realize there is anything to change — they have never developed the mindfulness to see the issue in the first place, which is the real reason so few ever pursue their own improvement. And the third is a comfortable, dangerous myth: that if you just keep doing something long enough, you are bound to get better at it. — Expanding Your Range (Growth/Change/Education/Learning/Habit)

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