People who are primary takers always are dependent on…
Page 122. People who are primary takers always are dependent on someone else for their happiness. Maybe they need praise and respect. Without it, they feel like nothing. Maybe they need gifts and possessions. Without it, they feel poor. Maybe they need physical pleasures galore. Without it they feel lacking.
— from Enjoy the Flight (Living/Balance/Happiness/Passion) · Don't Mind If I Do: How To Transform Your Life With The Power of Jewish Mindfulness
In the book
And don't let your troubles become a standing excuse: nobody is forcing you to take life so grimly that you can't relax even when things are hard. The taker's trap. Finally, beware of becoming a taker, because takers are forever dependent on someone else for their happiness — on praise, on possessions, on pleasures — and without the next hit they feel like nothing. If I had to name the single finding that runs underneath all the research on happiness, it's this: so much of what makes us happy depends on other people. — Enjoy the Flight (Living/Balance/Happiness/Passion)