In the act of praise, there is the aspect…
Page 180. In the act of praise, there is the aspect of being the passing of judgment, by a person of ability, and the person of no ability. When a child helps the mother set the table. The mother says you are such a good helper but when her husband does the same thing, she probably won’t be telling him the same
— from The Mind in the Cockpit · Courage to be Disliked