we need time and space to reflect on what…
Page 85 we need time and space to reflect on what went right and what could’ve been done differently in our lives in the past week or month. Without that reflection we will never change, or improve, or be all that we could be.
— from The Relationship With Yourself (Traits/Reflection) · 21 letters on life and its challenges by Charles handy
In the book
[Here is the place for my own turbulence — write in, or let me tell you, about a season when I was my own worst critic, and what it took to quiet that voice.] If the storms are generated inside, so is the calm — and the instrument that produces it is honest self-reflection. This is why the relationship with yourself matters so much: without reflection, you will never change, never improve, never become all that you could be. Experience alone does not teach you; it is evaluated experience that teaches — reflection is the thing that turns raw experience into insight. […] Build your character the way you would build any habit, one deliberate trait at a time, and never believe the lie that you are finished setting. Reflect often enough to actually learn from your own life — and be at least as kind to yourself as you would be to someone you love. [Write here, in your own hand, the one trait you most want to strengthen in yourself this year — and the inner-scorecard standard by which you will measure whether you did.] — The Relationship With Yourself (Traits/Reflection)