The active quitting is known only to the person…
Page 64. The active quitting is known only to the person who does it and it’s not always obvious to the onlookers.
— from Failure & Resilience (Challenge/Failure/Perseverance/Accountability/Flexibility/Resilience) · Fortitude American Resilience in the Era of Outrage written by Dan Crenshaw
In the book
On the other hand: genuine quitting — walking away in a context where you truly have other good options — is not the same thing as failure, and knowing the difference is its own wisdom. (And know that real quitting is a quiet, inner act, often invisible to everyone watching from outside.) The art is to stay fully committed to the climb while keeping the honesty to know when a particular climb is the wrong mountain. The second danger is perfectionism, which wears a noble disguise. — Failure & Resilience (Challenge/Failure/Perseverance/Accountability/Flexibility/Resilience)