What makes you resilient to trauma is to own…
Page 88 What makes you resilient to trauma is to own yourself fully. So if somebody says hurtful or insulting things, you can say interesting, that person is saying hurtful and insulting things. But you can separate your sense of yourself from them. We are really beginning to seriously understand that human beings can learn how to do that, to observe and not react.
— from Failure & Resilience (Challenge/Failure/Perseverance/Accountability/Flexibility/Resilience) · Becoming wise by Krista Tippett
In the book
Call it your mental fortress, a freedom that can never be assailed. The way you build it is to own yourself fully: when someone says something hurtful, you can notice — interesting, that person is saying hurtful things — and keep your sense of who you are separate from it, observing rather than reacting. This mental strength is not only for the crisis; it makes ordinary life better too, raising your satisfaction and your performance because you act from your values instead of your fears. — Failure & Resilience (Challenge/Failure/Perseverance/Accountability/Flexibility/Resilience)