paradoxically are overall self-confidence in our belief in our…

Page 41 keyword self-esteem paradoxically are overall self-confidence in our belief in our own ability to deal with setbacks may be reinforced when we fail, because we realized that the beast we had always feared failure is not as terrifying as we thought it was .

— from Failure & Resilience (Challenge/Failure/Perseverance/Accountability/Flexibility/Resilience)

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The reframe to internalize is learn to fail, or fail to learn. If you avoid every hard thing because you might fail, the message you quietly send yourself is that you cannot handle difficulty — and your confidence withers. Whereas when you do fail and survive it, your confidence is often reinforced, because you discover that the beast you always feared turns out to be far less terrifying than you imagined. So when you fall, refuse to catastrophize: do not leap to the most dire conclusion, look hard for the upside, find the humor in the mess where you can, and above all construe the setback as temporary — a passing trouble, not a permanent or all-defining one. — Failure & Resilience (Challenge/Failure/Perseverance/Accountability/Flexibility/Resilience)

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