learn to fail or fail to learn

Page 41 keyword self-esteem learn to fail or fail to learn. If we avoid hardships and challenges because we may fail, the message we are sending ourselves is that we are unable to deal with difficulty, unable to handle failure, and are self-esteem suffers as a result. If we do challenge ourselves, the message we are sending ourselves of the message we internalize that we are resilient enough to handle potential failure.

— from Failure & Resilience (Challenge/Failure/Perseverance/Accountability/Flexibility/Resilience)

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Then run the four steps for handling any mistake: accept responsibility, learn from it, commit to doing better, and repair the damage as best you can. The reframe to internalize is learn to fail, or fail to learn. If you avoid every hard thing because you might fail, the message you quietly send yourself is that you cannot handle difficulty — and your confidence withers. Whereas when you do fail and survive it, your confidence is often reinforced, because you discover that the beast you always feared turns out to be far less terrifying than you imagined. — Failure & Resilience (Challenge/Failure/Perseverance/Accountability/Flexibility/Resilience)

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