try to imagine your children talking about you, about…
Page 71 keyword parenting try to imagine your children talking about you, about your qualities. Even if they are only 3 years old, try to imagine them speaking as if they were 20-year-olds. What would they say? Mom always gives in. That dad always insists. When I'm angry and crying mom always hugs me and Dad always gets angry right back. When I screw up mom is very critical so I can only talk about my miss-ups with Dad. These sorts of sentences reflect roles that you have to switch from time to time, otherwise the kids will pay a heavy price. Not switching roles creates a good cop bad cop scenario which forces us into far more extreme positions than the ones we start off with.
— from Time