one of the ways in which I teach my…
one of the ways in which I teach my children to be of service is by volunteering to do charity work as a family something I think of as vitamin VV is for volunteering honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long. Why does a command, and specifically use the word honor, and not another word like love, isn't that the nature of the parent child relationship all about love actually use of the word honor teaches us a valuable lesson. There may be reasons the children do not love their parents to see if they’re still required to honor them. Parents gave their child life, Jewish wisdom, teachers that when we did on our parents, we dishonor ourselves the instructions to honor at once parent teachers, a child has gratitude, humility, and respect.
— from The Air Traffic Controller (God)
In the book
Do one act of service. The Controller runs the whole sky for the sake of others; fly the same way. One of the surest ways to make this real, and to teach it to your own children, is to do charity work together, as a family — and notice that even simple recognition makes people far more likely to keep serving, so that the giving quietly compounds over a life. Fly honestly when no tower seems to be watching — because one always is. Integrity, in the end, is nothing more mysterious than how you behave when no one is watching and no one would ever know: telling the truth, keeping the promise, doing the right thing in the dark. — The Air Traffic Controller (God)
Be deliberate about whom you expose them to, because the people in a child's orbit shape them as much as anything you say; I was always careful about the friends I let mine keep. Teach them, above all, to be givers and not takers, and make it concrete rather than preached: when a child first earns an allowance, have them split it into three boxes — one to spend, one to save, one to give away — and do real charity together, as a family, so generosity becomes a habit instead of a sermon. Praise their effort and strategy rather than their cleverness, which raises a child who reaches for challenges instead of fearing them; and let them choose, because children free to pick their own interests are far likelier to find a lasting passion than those handed a track to run. […] Commit. If there is one attribute a flourishing family needs above all, it is commitment — saying yes to your people and then doing everything it takes to live by it. Honor the generation before you — call your own parents and tell them you owe them everything. To my children, and to theirs: — Family & Parenting (Family/Parenting)