what kind of marriage partners do we want to…
Page 80 what kind of marriage partners do we want to be? How do we want to treat each other? How do we want to resolve our differences? How do we want to handle our finances? What kind of parents do we want to be what principles do we want to teach our children to help them prepare for adulthood, and to lead responsible, caring lives how do we help develop the potential talent of each child ? What kind of discipline do we want to use with our children? What roles will each of us have how can we best relate to each other's families what traditions do we bring with us to the family when we were raised what traditions do we want to keep and create? How do we want to give back?
— from Family & Parenting (Family/Parenting)
In the book
The first: children need love, but they also need to live in a rational universe, one where actions carry consistent, understandable consequences. The second: a family's culture starts upstream of the children, in the marriage itself, so the deepest question a couple can ask is what kind of partners they want to be — how they will treat each other, settle their differences, and handle the hard things. And it helps to name, in the calm seasons, when your family tends to drift off course — usually in times of stress and conflict, of fighting and blaming and criticizing — so that you recognize the weather when it returns. — Family & Parenting (Family/Parenting)