if you have cultivated wisdom, you may refrain from…
Page 98 if you have cultivated wisdom, you may refrain from lying not because it's wrong, but because you have learned that telling a lie almost always results in more complications, damaged relationships, and worse outcomes.
— from Friends, Community & Society (Relationships/Community/Society)
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Get those three right and almost everything else follows. Trust, once you understand it this way, is also why the wise rarely lie — not merely because lying is wrong, but because they have learned that a lie almost always ends in more complications, damaged relationships, and worse outcomes than the truth would have cost. And the work starts inside: a mature understanding of your own capabilities and motives turns out to be tightly linked to good relationships, because you cannot read others clearly until you can read yourself. — Friends, Community & Society (Relationships/Community/Society)