Asking yourself quotation what job does my spouse most…

Page 119. Asking yourself quotation what job does my spouse most need to do? Quotation gives you the ability to think about the right unit of analysis. Thinking about your relationships from the perspective of the job to be done is the best way to understand what’s important to the people who mean the most to you. It allows you to develop true empathy.

— from Friends, Community & Society (Relationships/Community/Society)

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The great teacher Waldo said love requires two things in equal measure — truth and tenderness — and that a relationship thrives only when both people are first true to themselves. One trick I have found for understanding the people closest to you is to ask what job they most need done in their life right now — thinking about your spouse, or your friend, in terms of the job they are trying to get done is the surest path to real empathy for them. And remember what everyone, underneath, is really after in studies and work and friendship and marriage alike: a place, and a person, with whom they can finally exhale and feel they truly belong. — Friends, Community & Society (Relationships/Community/Society)

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