there are seven steps of choice and change

Page 53 keyword change there are seven steps of choice and change. First, you may have a growing uneasiness with what already is. Gandhi, had this advice to offer - - never change anything until the thing you want in its place is worth more to you than the thing you are giving up. Second, you gradually become aware that an opportunity for choice is upon you. Third, you begin to actively check out options that may more adequately meet your long range goals and desires. Find the home place inside of you where you know what you really want - - then your choices will be healing for you. Fourth, relies there will be some pain and stress involved in giving up your former ways, even if they are destructive. Counting the costs ahead of time will allow you to be better prepared. Take an internal check up to see if it is appropriate now to take on change and endure a time of instability, stress, a risk as you practice a new attitude or behavior. Fifth, be aware of some forms of resistance you may use to avoid facing the choice that has come to you. Resistance may include projection, rationalization, anger, or withdrawal. Projection means defending present behavior by blaming circumstances or people. Rationalization means finding reasons to justify the way we are now. Becoming angry and withdrawing - - being unwilling to listen dash dashes away of protecting the status quo. But if we can accept that resistance is, let them have their say, we can break their grip on us. Sixth, gain some sense of how the desired attitudes and behaviors feel, then practice them. May take you a while. Finally, as the new skill becomes more natural we will enjoy your sense of accomplishment and increase self-esteem. The new skill forms part of the foundation on which other new behaviors and skills can be based. We have successfully created a component in our lives that will bring rewards over the long term.

— from Expanding Your Range (Growth/Change/Education/Learning/Habit) · What are you doing with the rest of your life by paying harden

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Knowing which kind you are attempting tells you how to attempt it. But every real change tends to begin the same way — with a growing uneasiness about what already is, an awareness that something is off, which is always the necessary first step. You can cultivate that awareness deliberately — noticing the disruptions to your status quo, staying curious about what is emerging in you, and keeping a journal of it. — Expanding Your Range (Growth/Change/Education/Learning/Habit)

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