All parents aspire to raise the kind of children…
All parents aspire to raise the kind of children that they know you’ll make the right choices even when they themselves are not there to supervise. One of the most effective ways to do that is to build the right family culture. It becomes the informal the powerful said guidelines about how your family behaves.
— from Family & Parenting (Family/Parenting)
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If you want your family to have a clear set of priorities that everyone simply follows — without anyone having to stop and think about what Mom or Dad would want — then those priorities have to be built in deliberately, until "this is how our family behaves" becomes the air everyone breathes. And this is the single most effective way to raise children who make good choices even when you are not in the room to supervise: not rules enforced moment to moment, but a culture they carry inside them. It is worth doing the deep work of asking, as a family, what kind of family do we actually want to be — what we value, how we want to treat and speak to one another, what we want to be remembered for. — Family & Parenting (Family/Parenting)