One possibility is that when we re-searching for happiness…
Page 239. One possibility is that when we re-searching for happiness we get too busy evaluating life to actually experience it. Instead of savoring our moment of joy we ruminate about why are lives aren’t more joyful. A second likely culprit is that we spend too much time striving for peak happiness overlooking the fact that happiness depends more on the frequency of positive emotions that on there attend intensity. A third potential factor is that when we hunt for happiness we over emphasize pleasure at the expense of purpose. Ernest Hemingway wrote, you can’t get away from yourself by moving from one place to another.!!
— from Enjoy the Flight (Living/Balance/Happiness/Passion) · Think Again by Adam Grant
In the book
And the deepest version of the trap is this: unhappiness is often nothing more than not knowing what you really want and killing yourself to get it anyway. There's a related danger in the very search: when we hunt happiness too hard we get so busy evaluating our lives that we forget to experience them — and we overrate peak intensity when happiness actually depends more on the frequency of small good moments, and we overrate pleasure at the expense of purpose. So it's worth asking of any belief or craving you're carrying the plain question: does this actually serve my happiness? — Enjoy the Flight (Living/Balance/Happiness/Passion)