In the more routine situations most people face, research…

In the more routine situations most people face, research shows that being a forgiving person is essential to leading a con tented life for the same reason, that the person who forgives comes out ahead. Even when someone wrongs you, feeling fury or experiencing hate only causes your life to descend into un-happiness and resentment. Then you are the one who suffers, not the person you're angry at. Forgiving, on the other hand, lifts the burden.

— from The Heart in the Cockpit (Emotion/Awe/Anxiety/Regret/Empathy) · Progresss Paradox: How Life Gets Better While People Feel Worse by Gregg Esaterbrook

In the book

Guard your inputs and forgive your debtors. You become the average of your five closest people, so choose them consciously. And forgive the wrongs done to you — not for the other person's sake but for your own, because carrying the fury only makes you the one who suffers. To my children, and to theirs: — The Heart in the Cockpit (Emotion/Awe/Anxiety/Regret/Empathy)

Also belongs to

• The Instruments (Awareness/Perception/Expectations)
• Who Is Flying (Self, Nature & Nurture)
• The Mind in the Cockpit
• Enjoy the Flight (Living/Balance/Happiness/Passion)

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