For rejection-sensitive "Bill" (featured in Chapter 12), an especially…

For rejection-sensitive "Bill" (featured in Chapter 12), an especially troubling situation that triggered his anger was when he felt his wife focused on the newspaper rather than on him at breakfast. He could practice implementation plans for this sce-nario so that when she turned to the headlines, he automatically activated a cooling strategy to self-distract, such as silently count-ing down from 100 until he had calmed enough to inhibit the destructive outburst he was about to have.

— from The Heart in the Cockpit (Emotion/Awe/Anxiety/Regret/Empathy) · Marshmallow Test: Why Self-Control is the Engine of Success by Walter Mischel

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So the whole art is buying time for the cool system to come back online. My grandmother's version was be still, stop, count to ten before you act; the researchers' version is a man who learned to silently count down from a hundred until he had calmed enough not to detonate. Same wisdom, different century. — The Heart in the Cockpit (Emotion/Awe/Anxiety/Regret/Empathy)

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