Offering advice without considering the persons needs can undermine…
Offering advice without considering the persons needs can undermine a persons sense of self efficacy, the crucial belief that we are all capable of managing challenges.
— from Communication & Conflict (Communication/Conflict) · Chatter, the voice in our head, why it matters and how to Harness it by Ethan Kross
In the book
Confidence itself, you should know, is read far more from behavior — posture, tone, calmness — than from the content of what you say. Be careful, too, with advice. Handing someone unsolicited advice can quietly tell them you don't think they can manage on their own, undermining the very confidence they need; the most effective help is usually delivered under the radar, as quiet support rather than instruction — which is also what actually moves people toward their goals. The deeper art is to start new kinds of conversations altogether: to set down, for a moment, our trained instinct to advocate for our own position, and make the harder move of deciding to truly care about the person across from us. — Communication & Conflict (Communication/Conflict)