These reappraisals include learning to identify and avoid negative…

These reappraisals include learning to identify and avoid negative and distorted thinking, such as catastrophizing (jumping to the most dire con-clusions about threats and risks), focusing on the upsides of bad experiences, accepting that you aren't to blame for bad news and failures, seeing the humor and absurdity in crummy situations, and construing frustrations and setbacks as temporary troubles that won't haunt you for months or years.

— from Failure & Resilience (Challenge/Failure/Perseverance/Accountability/Flexibility/Resilience) · Friction Project : How Smart Leaders Make the Right Things Easier and the Wrong Things Har

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Whereas when you do fail and survive it, your confidence is often reinforced, because you discover that the beast you always feared turns out to be far less terrifying than you imagined. So when you fall, refuse to catastrophize: do not leap to the most dire conclusion, look hard for the upside, find the humor in the mess where you can, and above all construe the setback as temporary — a passing trouble, not a permanent or all-defining one. And remind yourself that you are not uniquely cursed or horrible; the struggle itself is part of being human, shared by everyone who ever aimed at something. […] Make yourself accountable on purpose. Volunteer for it rather than waiting to be caught, and use the plain power of knowing someone is watching — accountability to another keeps you honest when your own resolve wavers. Refuse to catastrophize. Treat setbacks as temporary, look for the upside, and remember the struggle is universal, not a verdict on you alone. Don't make failure plan A. Stay fully committed to the climb — while keeping the honesty to tell a wise change of course from a defeat. — Failure & Resilience (Challenge/Failure/Perseverance/Accountability/Flexibility/Resilience)

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