when we judge our children we have to be…
Keyword parenting when we judge our children we have to be aware how much of this judgment has to do with our projections into their futures and are rejections into our own pasts. You should therefore ask yourself is this about me or is this about my child?
— from Family & Parenting (Family/Parenting) · Light at the beginning of the tunnel
In the book
One question can prevent a great deal of this. When you find yourself judging your child harshly, stop and ask: is this about me, or about my child? — because so much of what we project onto our children is really our own unlived past or our anxious hopes for their future. I know the pull well: as my own family grew, I unconsciously placed all the things I had lacked in my own childhood onto my kids as dreams for them. — Family & Parenting (Family/Parenting)