Get out from between your ears

Get out from between your ears. By looking at yourself from the outside, you can start to be realistic and feel better about yourself.

— from The Relationship With Yourself (Traits/Reflection) · It’s all in your Head, written by Stephen Pollan and Mark Levine

In the book

You know your own weak spots better than anyone alive, so when you take a swing at yourself, it does real damage. We do things to ourselves, and think things about ourselves, that we would never permit anyone else to do or say. [Tell here, in your own words, about a time you were far harder on yourself than the situation deserved — and what it cost you, or what finally softened it.] […] When you find yourself trapped in the loop, the escape is to step outside your own skin: stop viewing the painful memory through your own eyes and watch it from a distance, like a fly on the wall observing what happened to a third party, which changes how the whole thing feels. Get out from between your own ears, look at yourself from the outside for a moment, and you will be both more realistic and, strangely, kinder. And then, the hardest part: once you stop trying to control the past, you can finally let it go. — The Relationship With Yourself (Traits/Reflection)

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