A little shame is good it keeps you accountable…
Page 136. A little shame is good it keeps you accountable and on course. It is a necessary element of personal responsibility, which is a necessary bedrock for successful life. Shame leads to humility the good kind which leads to thoughtfulness, desire to improve, and ultimately mental fortitude.
— from The Heart in the Cockpit (Emotion/Awe/Anxiety/Regret/Empathy) · Fortitude American Resilience in the Era of Outrage written by Dan Crenshaw
In the book
Guilt points at the deed; shame points at the self. A little guilt is healthy — it keeps you accountable and on course. Shame, left alone, is corrosive, and the first thing to know about it is that it was learned and it is not your fault. — The Heart in the Cockpit (Emotion/Awe/Anxiety/Regret/Empathy)