whether it is your studies your work or your…
Page 168 Keyword freedom whether it is your studies your work or your friendships or your marriage All of those things are connected to one's search for places and relationships in which one can feel and say it's okay to be here.
— from Friends, Community & Society (Relationships/Community/Society)
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One trick I have found for understanding the people closest to you is to ask what job they most need done in their life right now — thinking about your spouse, or your friend, in terms of the job they are trying to get done is the surest path to real empathy for them. And remember what everyone, underneath, is really after in studies and work and friendship and marriage alike: a place, and a person, with whom they can finally exhale and feel they truly belong. It helps, too, to understand that we each carry an attachment style learned long ago: the securely attached assume they are worthy of love and trust others to give it, while the anxious cling for fear of abandonment and the avoidant push people away before they can be hurt — and knowing your own pattern is the first step to loving past it. — Friends, Community & Society (Relationships/Community/Society)
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