we can learn a lot from the comparison between…
Page 73 we can learn a lot from the comparison between romantic and mortal grief. Romantic grief is about the death of a relationship not its other half. It's a form of what we called Greif. When Jules broke up with me, it wasn't for her sake that I grieved but mine. She was better off without me. Other forms of relational grief depend on other relationships, familial, or friendly, and have distinctive characters of their own.
— from The Landing (Death) · Life is hard bykieran setiya
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It also helps to know that grief comes in more than one form. We grieve the living too — the ends of relationships that do not die but change — and learning to tell mortal grief from that ordinary, relational kind keeps us from being blindsided by either. Even our dread of the end is more tangled than we admit; the poet Keats confessed that he had long been half in love with easeful death, with ceasing upon the midnight with no pain. — The Landing (Death)