when it comes to regret, a third view is…
when it comes to regret, a third view is healthier feeling is for thinking. Don’t dodge emotions. Don’t wallow in them either. Confront them. Use them for a catalyst for future behavior. If thinking it’s for doing feeling is to help us think.
— from The Heart in the Cockpit (Emotion/Awe/Anxiety/Regret/Empathy) · Power of Regret by Daniel Pink
In the book
Sadness itself is a normal, healthy emotion; it is the dwelling in it, the wallowing, that turns self-destructive. The third and healthiest way to handle a hard feeling is neither to dodge it nor to drown in it, but to confront it and use it as a catalyst for what you do next. Negative emotions are not malfunctions; they are signals about your environment, telling you something needs to change. — The Heart in the Cockpit (Emotion/Awe/Anxiety/Regret/Empathy)