The difference between demanding an immediate consequence or resolution…
The difference between demanding an immediate consequence or resolution, and allowing time for an issue to be resolved, is often the difference between putting the final nail in the coffin of a relationship and leaving the door open for more amicable interactions in the future.
— from Communication & Conflict (Communication/Conflict) · Tomer Devorah: Rabbi Moshe Cordevereo's Classic Guide to Emulating Hashem's Thirteen Attri
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And when a conflict truly cannot be solved, remember you always have exactly three honest options: change the situation, leave it, or stop complaining and fully accept it — but never the fourth, which is to stew in it and blame. And give it time: the difference between demanding an immediate resolution and allowing an issue room to breathe is often the difference between the final nail in a relationship's coffin and a door left open for something better later. The whole disposition to cultivate is what one writer calls a challenge network rather than only a support network — surround yourself with people who will tell you that you are wrong, get into the habit of asking what evidence would change my mind, and learn to feel the strange joy of discovering you were wrong. — Communication & Conflict (Communication/Conflict)